“You only live once” popped up on a friends facebook stream and since I am not always a smart ass (sometimes I might as well be sleeping ;)) I haven’t corrected her. But basically you are not just living once you are living each and every day. I haven’t thought about it that way either until I’ve found it written on my wall in my room in Byron Bay (where I moved end of February). And even if it means more or less the same as “You only live once” whoever put it there definitely has a point. Cause if you are telling yourself that you only live once you could still tend to postpone things that are important to you on later cause you think you still have time. But how would you know how much time you have left?
During my travels I’ve talked to lots of people who envy me for travelling now while they are still planning on travelling the world once they are retired. Some are even working their butts off 12, 13 hours a day, six days a week to make it an early retirement. And I try not to judge but living for the next years or decades just to pay the bills and save for later while not having much time for anything else seems wrong to me cause you never know if the “later” will even come for you. In New Zealand I met a women probably in her mid fifties who had always planned to travel New Zealand with her husband once they are retired. When I met her she was doing the trip with her friend cause her husband past away last year…
As sad as this sounds it showed me once more that I made the right choice to take “my time” now instead of later. Cause even if the later is coming for you, you might miss out on the things you would have done while you were still young and your back wasn’t hurting due to tremendous hours on an office desk. Or even worse you wouldn’t enjoy it cause all you know is how to work but never learned how to enjoy your time while doing “nothing” or to use a more poetic expression “while living in the moment”. And I get it: Some are just afraid…Afraid of the changes, afraid of the uncertainty that comes with it or have other reasons not to go after what they want. And that’s ok! It is ok to be afraid but there will always be “something” holding us back so we will never be ready. But as Hugh Laurie (Dr. House) already said:
“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.”
So listen to the “doctor” (cause doctors need to know ;)) and do what you like…do whatever feels right the very moment you are doing it and if it turns out to be the wrong paths try a different way the next day…You don’t necessarily need to live each day as it would be your last (cause that would probably just stress you) but live it on your terms and your conditions so you are looking forward to tomorrow. And if you are struggling just trust that everything comes to you at the right time for the right reasons. So all you have to do is spread out the options and trust in the process…each and every day.